My father [Dad, may your soul rest in peace] built a house in Akokwa, Nigeria, with a fence behind it, with broken glass and nails on top. Despite the sharp objects, lizards, especially those with red heads and drooping necks, rest and crawl at the top of the fence, from one corner to the other.
On the inside of the fence, about a foot in front of the wall is a thin, tall papaya tree. This tree is almost barren and feeds and bleeds so many hungry children during the Biafra-Nigeria War. Like red-headed lizards, our children often stare at papaya trees, hoping it will produce a pod. Then we will stare at the lizards with starving eyes, and I want to know what they will do next. Will they continue to crawl along the fence, or jump on the papaya tree, or will they walk diagonally along the fence?
Many men, aged 57, face the same dilemma as the old red-necked lizards. Their main concern is how to conduct life. In that spiritually focused space, they face at least three choices. They can expand to a higher level of life. They can continue to wear out and even wear the pedestal, reflecting their lifestyle throughout their lives. Their third choice, that is, the lizard that I remember did not choose, will be succumbed to the demands of society and stranded.
This may not sound important, but the choices we make at the age of 57 can determine the way we live the rest of our lives. It's not that people's decisions [material and moral] at any age can't achieve or destroy them, but a young person can quickly recover from a wrong decision, and older people may not.
According to an Ibo language, the wooden people will gather together when they are young, and they will use it when they are old. On the surface, this proverb means that they should work hard at a young age and then fold up and rest when they are old. If you do this, it will lead to a decline in physical and mental health. The evidence for those who choose to do so is obvious. The recovery of creativity, rather than gradual decline, is what people need when they grow up.
The 57-year-old men let their bodies and senses run along the same crawling path, and sooner or later they will succumb to the challenges of life. They may think that they live a stable life, but there is no stability in the universe. The status quo has never been found in nature.
No one needs more than a second to understand the continued termination in the equilibrium area of perception. Everyone can see wrinkled skin, but no one sees the internal organs. Even if they are hidden, the brain, kidneys, liver and internal organs are still wrinkled and tired like skin. This explains why 55-year-old men will soon be out of breath. If they drink a bottle of beer, stout beer or soda will increase their weight. If someone challenges their minds, they will develop brain fog and often Have urinary and genital dysfunction.
An active lifestyle rather than a stable lifestyle is the answer for the elderly. The body is like a house. In order to keep it clean, the house must be cleaned, painted and played. Similarly, for 57-year-old men, they must live an active lifestyle. The accumulation of fat and fat is their biggest enemy. Move it! Don't be buried in fat. Go to the gym, jog, weightlifting, playing football, playing basketball, running, and doing as much as you can to keep it as thin as a slender papaya tree.
In addition, 57-year-old men must choose what they eat. Salt is their biggest enemy. Revenge avoid it! Every day, the body needs half a teaspoon of iodized salt. Resistance is fed like a greedy baby, and they eat everything that is in front of him. Ask for a meal that is right for your new diet. At the age of 57, you have the right to ask someone to put whatever type of food in front of you. If for some reason the people around you don't care about healthy life wishes, cook for yourself. I hope your mother will teach you how to cook when you are young.
In his seventh phase [Stagnation vs. Generativity] theory of psychosocial development, Erik Erikson envisions that a 57-year-old man is either proud of what he is doing or is saddened by the loss of motivation. For men of this age, the status quo will not decrease. Eriksson said that during this period of life, new entry led to a happier man or woman. Like many psychologists and psychoanalysts, Eriksson is explaining what I think he is witnessing in the interaction between people and society. Eriksson didn't say it explicitly, but I think it must be understood that human beings are always responsible for society, just as society forced him to do.
Careful observation, any keen observer will conclude that society has always been the bane and savior of mankind. The society says, "Play your role and leave the human phase, otherwise we will drive you out." People act in accordance with the rules set by the society. The age of 57 is the best time to abandon society and plan your own destiny.
In my so-called Social Expectation Theory [SET], society expects the elderly to pass quickly so that young people can occupy their jobs, and their teams, of course, can inherit any wealth they have acquired. We need to be aware of SET to prevent its consequences. One can imagine that SET is worse in some cultures.
For all men who are 57 years old this year, I tell you, look ahead; take new efforts. Let your brain and your mind turn like a windmill. If you are an engineer, please go to law school; if you are an accountant, please go to medical school. Create a charity organization. Write a memoir. If they ignite their thoughts, no one can't do it.
No matter what you choose, don't relax and let yourself run aground. When we looked at them, no red-necked lizard fell from the wall, and the 57-year-old man should not.
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Orignal From: 57-year-old male: Social Expectation Theory (SET)
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