In these eras of social media, it is easy to "connect" with others, exchange dreams and wishes, and paint photos and background information. However, despite the "easy" mechanism to "satisfy" others, you may still find yourself alone, lonely, and eager to establish a close relationship with a "special" person – but, er, it seems that you cannot fulfill your desires.
So what hinders you? After all, is there not enough "others" to choose from in the singles pool? Or what might it be? from
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, this may hinder your ability to find your intimate relationship for such a long time?
Well, I believe this is a problem that has not yet been found "special", which is easy and "comfortable". It is convenient to think that "a lot of there" is right for you.
But is it really like this? After all, hindering you from finding "unique", is it something you have? If this is the case, what can you do?
In fact, you can do a lot of things. This "many" can be summed up in one sentence: you need to know yourself better; understand what it hinders the way you find and develop good intelligence; and realize what can cause you to destroy your relationships until now.
You can call such a process "cognitive therapy", you will pursue everything yourself; or you can call this process "get awake", which will bring surface thinking and behavior patterns that may hinder you. Successful relationship until now.
It all boils down to: You are willing, really willing, to find out how you are in contact with others; what are your needs; how can you build a satisfactory relationship in your own way; and finally, how can you be self-aware To many ways you might have - unintentionally or unintentionally - destroy your relationship until now, and how to make better changes?
Taking responsibility is the name of the game. Responsible for your failures and have a responsibility to be self-aware and take the necessary steps to change any changes in demand.
Being responsible and self-aware does not necessarily mean that you need to stop "meeting with others" on social media. The opposite may even be true: when you try to be aware, everyone you "meet" can reflect something about you and "tell" something about yourself. For everyone you meet, you can be aware of your predictions of their "throwing" and what causes you to project these aspects and parts of yourself: Is this what? stubborn? Hey? Shy? Vulnerabilities? Not safe?
The more you realize that you are starting to observe yourself "as if from the side" and then realize your thinking and thinking, and that you need to change your thoughts, attitudes and behaviors in order to finally find and cultivate the intimate relationship you desire.
Orignal From: How to find and cultivate successful intimacy
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