According to the style of friendship, we discuss three levels of friendship and understanding social personality patterns.
As social networks become the key to modern virtual life, it is impossible to avoid friendship. But friendship may not be as simple as it seems, because it has multiple levels and complexity, and friendships can come in many types. However, a friendship like love depends on the single factor of attraction, in which case it is more of a spirit and an emotion than a physical attraction. Therefore, when romantic love begins with physical attraction, friendship will be more spiritual, emotional or psychological.
Among the thousands of students we met at school or the hundreds of students we met at the workplace, we finally became intimate and reached friendships with very few or limited people. Just like love, friendship also passes through our internal filters. When we unconsciously choose our lover, even our friends will be selected unconsciously, because we intuitively understand who might be our true friend.
In addition to the fact that we use this unconscious and intuitive filter when we choose friends or lovers, we also consciously attract people who have established long-lasting relationships and friendships with us. This attraction may be sexual, but it is likely that we are attracted to personality, for those who have a personal style, manners and attitude that look fascinating, interesting or simply similar. There may be a theory of narcissism, because the friends we choose may look, say or think like us. This spiritual relationship usually comes from the beginning. Just as love falls in love at first sight, friendship can also begin at first sight.
There may be several levels of this preference, and in some cases you only want to stay in touch with the social network. You only need to focus on one person on Twitter or add someone as a friend on Facebook because of this basic or unconscious preference, or at least realize that you can get some benefit from the virtual relationship. However, this is the first superficial layer of friendship, just as you smile or share a news on a train with a completely stranger without keeping in touch or meeting again. This kind of friendship is the diversity of "free friendship."
Most social networking friends you don't know will be random friends and strangers you have met and sharing random conversations on airplanes or trains or buses will be such casual friends. This is the first layer or stage of friendship. In most cases, we will not go beyond this stage. Most of the people we meet in life are such casual friends. This is a friendship that neither side has expected. This friendship meets our basic social interaction and communication needs. For example, if you give a speech at a meeting, some people ask you questions, you answer them, these are your audience for you, but in this basic interaction, there is a sense of harmony, almost a preliminary friendship. . These, the audience you choose to communicate with you is your random friend who meets your interaction and communication needs.
The next stage of friendship is the stage of far-end friendship, there are some unconscious or conscious expectations in friendship, and there may be conscious sexual or emotional attraction. This kind of friendship is with people you often communicate with, and you are also likely to be interested in their activities. Far-end friends are people you may or may not see, but you want to maintain a long-term and meaningful relationship with them, and in most cases, you have something to do with their social or personal life. To understanding. This is the second level of friendship and the second type of friendship. Although there is expectation of this relationship, there may be no clear idea of what to expect. You just know that you want to keep in touch with these friends, and they are more than just contacts. These friends have met our strength and recognition needs. Like these friends, we are convinced that some people in the world care about us and are interested in our lives, dreams and achievements.
The third stage and the type of friendship are close at hand, this is family members, close school friends, close colleagues and friendship between spouses and lovers. In this friendship, there may be many expectations, and sometimes there will be an intuitive emotional connection. The initial reason for friendship may be the physical attraction of the spouse, or the same emotional connection as the family members, or may have a common life and shared physical activity, such as a school or a working friend. Close relatives or close relatives will know most of the details of your life, and this friendship brings hope for sharing, which may or may not be realistic. For example, if children leave home to work or study abroad, parents who are still close friends will want their children to talk to them every week, which may not always be feasible. These close relatives or close relatives of friends or friendships meet our basic safety, love and security needs.
Therefore, from these stages or types of friendships, you will know that the most basic types of friends are close friends, followed by remote friends and then random friends. Some people have more random friends than others, so they are extroverted. These people are usually more curious about the world, leaders are more open and communicate, and they can be very creative. However, their main need is social interaction and communication.
The second type of person has more remote friends or social contacts who are neither too close nor completely indifferent. These people have a wide range of social connections and expectations, but there is little random contact, they have a mix of outward and introverted personality patterns. This means that within the scope of 10, their extroversion will be 5 to 7. The main need of these people is power or recognition. Of course, this may have different possibilities, such as public or social figures and writers, actors or politicians, etc., naturally there will be more random connections, but as a natural preference, some public figures prefer social recognition rather than social communication. . This preference is the basis of their social personality and will define the kind of friendship they choose to have.
The third category is completely introverted, they are poets or artists, or just individuals who like to work on their own and rely on their close network of friends and family. These people may have limited social connections, few random connections, and may not have leadership positions. In some cases, their introversion or detachment will mask any leadership skills they have. These people may also be very creative, but this creativity can lead to complex ideas and subjectivity. In this case, intimate friendships that meet the needs of love, security, and security are the main needs of these individuals. These individuals are more emotional and safe, or family and family oriented rather than communication or recognition oriented. From these three friendship modes, these three social personalities can be depicted based on social interaction.
Of course, this is currently a popular psychology, and few studies on social psychology have studied friendships, friendships in social networks, or friendship styles that may be related to personality. However, future psychology will not be able to avoid this kind of research, and as the importance of social networks and virtual friendships increases, psychology will have to study how friendships are formed, why some people become our friends and why different levels The friendship is realized by the individual. Although there are theories about children's friendship and group formation, more research on the formation and friendship of adult relationships is needed in psychology. Research must also be conducted to determine if people with more random friends were once curious creative types seeking communication, and whether people with more distant friends and fewer random friends seek power and achievement and whether introverted individuals rely primarily on emotional security. . As the possibilities of technology increase and the world is connected, friendship is still a very fertile field of social science research.
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